Do you know your love language?
How about that of your spouse or each of your children?
It's funny how within one family there can be so many differences.
Who knew that there was more than 1 way to love?!
In our marriage I love to spend time with Ron. I want to hear all the details of his day. I want to be with him while he does odd jobs around the house. However, those things don't cross his mind. He would much rather DO something for me, not necessarily WITH me.
Early in our marriage, this used to drive me nuts.
Ron would come home with a gift. Flowers. Chocolate. A card. I would get all excited and feel so special. To me that was just the beginning. That meant we were going to watch a movie together or go for a walk or something. For him, 'meh, he was done. It wasn't that he didn't want to spend time with me, he loves me. Okay, so he adores me. (And the feelin' is mutual, dah-ling) But in his mind, the expression of love had been done.
Boy was I excited to learn about the 5 love languages.
We haven't visited this book in ages, and with 7 children in the house, I'm sure we should re-visit this real soon. However, I wanted to share this resource with you, just in case you hadn't heard of it. Or maybe you're like us and it's been a long time!
Determine Your Love Language Online
The love languages test is online. Use it yourself, for your spouse, or for your children.
Go to 5lovelanguages.com
Armed with this type of insight into your spouse and your children, you can save lots of heartache and misunderstandings. Many times we simply don't mean to hurt one another, we just see things differently. Any tools that can help you to "get them", whether that's your spouse or your children, can be a real sanity saver.
So run, don't walk on over to Dr. Gary Chapman's site and give his resource a try.
I think you will find, like I have, that knowing how to speak someone's love language opens up the relationship to grow and flourish like nothing else. I hope that you find that to be true in your home like I have found it in mine.
I would love to hear from you.
What is your love language?
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