The 5 Love Languages

Do you know your love language?

How about that of your spouse or each of your children?

It's funny how within one family there can be so many differences.  

Who knew that there was more than 1 way to love?!

In our marriage I love to spend time with Ron.  I want to hear all the details of his day.  I want to be with him while he does odd jobs around the house.  However, those things don't cross his mind.  He would much rather DO something for me, not necessarily WITH me. 

Early in our marriage, this used to drive me nuts.  

Ron would come home with a gift.  Flowers.  Chocolate.  A card.  I would get all excited and feel so special.  To me that was just the beginning.  That meant we were going to watch a movie together or go for a walk or something.  For him,  'meh, he was done.  It wasn't that he didn't want to spend time with me, he loves me.  Okay, so he adores me. (And the feelin' is mutual, dah-ling)  But in his mind, the expression of love had been done.

Boy was I excited to learn about the 5 love languages.

We haven't visited this book in ages, and with 7 children in the house, I'm sure we should re-visit this real soon.  However, I wanted to share this resource with you, just in case you hadn't heard of it.  Or maybe you're like us and it's been a long time!  

Determine Your Love Language Online

The love languages test is online.  Use it yourself, for your spouse, or for your children.

Go to 5lovelanguages.com

 

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Armed with this type of insight into your spouse and your children, you can save lots of heartache and misunderstandings.  Many times we simply don't mean to hurt one another, we just see things differently.  Any tools that can help you to "get them", whether that's your spouse or your children, can be a real sanity saver.

So run, don't walk on over to Dr. Gary Chapman's site and give his resource a try.

I think you will find, like I have, that knowing how to speak someone's love language opens up the relationship to grow and flourish like nothing else.  I hope that you find that to be true in your home like I have found it in mine.

I would love to hear from you.

What is your love language?

No More Perfect Moms

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No More Perfect Moms – 40 Moms Speak Out!

I am a part of Jill Savage's book launch team for her brand new book-

"No More Perfect Moms"

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The launch team is writing about their insights as they read the book .  

I hope these posts encourage you that none of us are perfect.  

We all struggle.  

We all need to give ourselves and each other more grace.

Enjoy! & by the way I will admit up front how imperfect I am- my post is not yet written. 😉  

So instead of giving in to my perfectionistic ways, I am posting this anyway.

Remember to wait and order your book Feb. 4-9, 2013  and get  free e-books, audio workshops, and more!


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Whew!!  That was a lot, huh?!  

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How Much Do We Really Need?

Tolstoy’s tale entitled “How Much Land Does A Man Need?”  introduces a peasant named Pahom.  Pahom suffers from a common heart condition, discontentment.  Throughout the story he becomes consumed with the desire to expand, grow, and increase. He wants to grow his business.  He want to increase his fortune.  He wants. He wants. He wants.

Each time he grows his business, he become discontent and again pursues further expansion.

One day Pahom learns of an opportunity he could not resist. He can have more land than he ever imagined.  All he had to do was walk and claim the land in just one day. 

And the price? Well worth it, he reasoned. If only……. Oh, how this story rings true in the world today. The never ending quest for more is an unquenchable thirst. No matter how much you acquire there is always…..more!

How often does “enough” seem to elude your very best efforts to acquire “it”.

You know "it":

the bigger house

the nicer car

the higher income

the coolest, newest gadget

The bigger house promises more space, bigger yard, beautiful amenities. The new car will make you look good, and make your children feel cool. The higher income will finally afford you the things you deserve! The newest, coolest gadget is just……COOL!

The Desires of Our Hearts

It is so easy to confuse the desire of our eyes and declare them the desires of our hearts. God promised to give us the desires of our hearts.

Delight thyself also in the LORD: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Psalm 37:4

It is easy to confuse the cravings of our eyes, with the deepest needs of our hearts. We begin to reason that the material can satisfy the intangible. That the physical can fill the emotional. The root of our discontent is not ultimately met in any of the promises of this world.

We know that, don’t we? Yet, it is still such an easy trap. We work harder. We stay up later. We borrow more. Yet, it still doesn’t satisfy. The pursuit of “more” has a high cost.

So…. how much land did Pahom need?  

The short answer- 6ft, from head to toe.